Love is in the air

I guess this is a perfect season for love to blossom and bloom, it's happening all around me and I'm happy for those who have found or continue to love this Christmas season. The reason I say this is because I've recently found out some of my closest friends have recently started relationships or have hit milestones in their love life, being engaged, being married, etc. So one would say that love is indeed in the air. Having said this, there's also something to be said about those who have yet to have found love, well not something to be said about them but in regards to them. People like me, sometimes people say they aren't looking but in actuality the reason we say we aren't looking is because of a few reasons. We don't want to seem like all we do is look for a relationship. We don't want to seem lonely. We don't want your pity. We actually enjoy being single, but not long term (at least I tell myself that while I wait for my opportunities to arise... Sometimes things are really out of my control). I do say that I am enjoying it, at times. When I hang out with other single people, but it limits my friends when there are only a handful of us left. A dying breed if you will.. (also not a bad thing, don't get me wrong I am happy for those who have found love).

In some aspects of life, people not in relationships are often excluded from things as well. At least from my perspective I feel I am at times... Case in point, would be some of my friends who have good intentions, but I guess have missed the sensitivity alarm going off. So like, I was hanging out with friends about a week ago, we weren't doing anything special, but the subject of relationships came up and then I realized everyone in the room was in a relationship except for me. Not a big deal so far as this is often the case for me these days. The thing that got me was when one of my friend mentioned how they went on a couples only date, and how they said I should have went... *at this point my mind was thinking* "REALLY now... REALLY???" I didn't know how to respond other than ignoring it and moving on. But sometimes, and this may seem a bit of a rant, sometimes you people in relationships don't really notice your friends who aren't in them, and your actions clearly show. Public displays of affection are good in moderate amounts with larger groups of people. Not so much with a handful of people especially when there are individuals who are single around (if not them then me).

Now I don't want to sound bitter but I guess what I'm trying to say is that love is in the air and in time everyone will find their one true love. So for those of you who have found love and you know with a certainty you've found love then hold on to it.. for those of you who may be unsure, take a step back and ask yourself a few questions to help you understand whether you really are in love or if it's time to move on.. sometimes the longer you hold on to something that isn't right, the more pain it will cause in the end (I know from experience)... and for those of you who are in the same boat as me... well.. it's tough out there, but one day it'll be our turn too... until then just smile because we're still alive... as long as we have that there's still hope... so Merry Christmas, miracles can happen... and finding love is truly a miracle worth treasuring, even if it is for but a moment.