The best kind of relationship is when they're not only your lover, but your best friend too.

One hopes that one day you can find someone you like, hoping that one day that like turns into love. You always hear that people want to find someone they’re compatible with and they can tell everything to, do everything with, and just plain be yourself without having to worry about what they think. In many aspects, your best friend is exactly that kind of person, a person who accepts you for who you are and loves you for it.

So why would the best kind of relationship be with someone who you not only love but consider a best friend? I guess it begins with why we even date in the first place. At least for me and many others I know, we date to find someone we can spend time with, who we have a romantic attraction to, and to develop something that can survive through thick and thin. Ultimately one day, most of us hope to find someone we can marry, and spend the rest of our lives with. We look around and hoping that we find someone with all the character traits of what we want in a relationship partner but deep down inside we want someone we can be completely open with, who will take our jokes, criticisms, imperfections and subtle nuances that make us who we are and just be happy with. 

Best friends sort of are these people. They understand us, sometimes more than we understand ourselves. We trust them, we love them, and we’d be willing to do almost anything for them and they for us. A lot of the qualities that a best friend possesses are these very same qualities that people look for in a relationship. Someone we can trust. Someone whom we love. Someone who we’d be willing to do anything for and they for us, because we love them. There are many other intangibles as to why we choose who we choose in relationships, although it’s debatable that we even choose our relationships as sometimes we can’t really control who we love, it just happens. For good or for bad, we fall in love and what we do after that depends on us (whole other topic). 

You always hear about people who are in relationships out of comfort. Yes I believe relationships should be comfortable, but at the same time they should be fun, exciting and that feeling that you first had when you first started to know them should be there. I think that the Honeymoon phase shouldn’t go away. Love is meant to be exciting, why else would our hearts skip a beat when we’re around those we love. Whenever I’m with my best friends, I have that same sort of excitement. One day I just hope that I can be in a relationship with someone who I love and consider a best friend. Not only for the reasons I’ve mentioned but for all the intangibles and reasons I can’t really explain because that’s how love is.